Pastoral Notes for Sunday, May 30, 2021

Dear Cornerstone Family,

After last week’s sermon on marriage, divorce, and remarriage, a parent asked me for advice on speaking about sexuality with their children. I was glad to get the question! In our day, parents can’t afford to be silent on subject of sexuality. Moreover, God has entrusted parents with the responsibility to raise their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord (Eph. 6:4). This includes training them in the Bible’s teaching on sexual faithfulness.

But how do we address the subject without looking like a fool? Below are four practical suggestions:

1. Plan the Talk
Settle your nerves by planning what you’re going to say. Then, spend time praying over what you planned. Jot down a few notes to keep yourself on track. The more you can prepare your heart and words, the more you’ll reduce awkwardness and stress, and the higher the likelihood you will communicate clearly, lovingly, and effectively.

2. Be Natural, Inquisitive, and Intentional
Avoid a “family meeting” communication style. Instead, just be yourself and use your regular family worship time or some planned down time. Begin by asking basic biblical questions about relationships, love, and marriage. As the conversation progresses, steer the dialogue to the matters of sexuality focusing on God’s design for men, women, and marriage.

3. Start Young and Keep the Conversation Going
Begin as early as possible. Four, five, and six-year-olds are very observant. They pick up far more than we realize. When kids are young, talk in general ways about gender, love, marriage, and family. As your child progresses through grammar school, discuss the realities of sexuality, homosexuality, and transgenderism with faithful frankness. As they grow, commit to engaging them regularly about sexuality, getting more specific. Welcome their questions! Be God’s instrument and trust the Lord to confirm the truth to their hearts as they mature.

4. Be Biblical
Let Scripture do the talking. In case you need help, here’s a simple outline you could follow:

  • Begin by talking about the creation account in Genesis 1-2 and how God created us male and female, and in His image. Emphasize that gender, marriage, and the unique roles of men and women were all a part of God’s good and wise design from the beginning.

  • Discuss the fall in Genesis 3 and how everything that God created good—even marriage and sexuality—has been affected by the fall. Use a Bible story like Noah’s infidelity or King David’s adultery to help illustrate this. As appropriate, name specifically how the world has twisted the definition of marriage and gender. Be clear about how homosexuality is a sin and not in keeping with God’s good design. Turn to Genesis 19:1-13, Romans 1:26-27 or 1 Corinthians 6:9 to show the clarity and consistency of God’s Word on the subject.

  • Then discuss how God is presently at work redeeming and restoring the world, including marriage and sexuality, through the power of the gospel. Show from Ephesians 5:16-33 how God uses the love between a man and a woman in marriage as one of the primary ways He illustrates His love for the church!

  • When age appropriate, prepare your children for the inevitable struggles they will face sexually. Let them know that sexual sin is something we all face in varying ways and degrees. This is why we must be faithful in confessing our sin and repenting of it. As appropriate, let them know you’re still learning how to seek God’s grace for forgiveness and new obedience in the area of sexuality.

  • Close with Revelation 21 and the confident hope we have that no matter how twisted marriage and sexuality becomes in our time, in the day of Jesus Christ’s return we will be free of sexual sin and perfected in holiness as a beautiful Bride ready for her Bridegroom, the Lord Jesus Christ.

    I hope these simple suggestions strengthen you in knowledge and courage as you strive to raise children who will love, cherish, and follow the truth of God’s Word for marriage and sexuality.

Your servant,

 



Pastoral Notes for Sunday, May 23, 2021

Dear Cornerstone Family,

I sometimes joke about the people of Cornerstone being long suffering. How week after week you sit under my long sermons and, wonder of wonders, you come back the following week. Thankfully, the Scripture tells us that suffering produces character, endurance, and hope (Romans 5:3-4). So, take heart, these long sermons are one of God’s means for growing you up in the faith ;-)

Now, as long as my sermons are, you might be surprised by the amount of content I prepare and don’t preach. I actually wrote two sermons on last week’s passage! (Mercifully, I only delivered one—you’re welcome!) In the sermon I didn’t preach, I laid out six practical instructions for putting sin to death. After speaking with a few of you this week, I thought the little tidbit below might be helpful more generally. I hope and pray it is.

First, refuse to tolerate sin’s presence – Sin will try to desensitize your conscience, so that you might be lulled into accommodating its presence. Be aware of this and resist this tug! Let this be your settled position: to not allow sin to make a home within your heart. Take Paul at his word, “Consider yourself dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus” (Romans 6:11).

Second, become deaf to the false promises of temptation – Temptation always talks a big game, but it never delivers. It says, “This is not a big deal. One time won’t hurt anything. You know this will satisfy you.” But this is just the bait hiding the hook. Don’t be deceived by temptation’s lies: “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death” (Proverbs 14:12).

Third, stir up a holy hatred for sin and its consequences – In our mind’s eye, we must see “the sinfulness of sin,” to borrow a phrase from Ralph Venning. In other words, we must see sin for the horror it is and increasingly hate what it does to us, the world, and the affront it is to glory of God. In a word, we must cultivate hearts that, “Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good” (Romans 12:11).

Fourth, strike temptation and sin with the sword of the Spirit – We are most vulnerable to sin when we are spiritually on our heels. The flesh is weak, so if our guard is down, we will fall. But if we resist temptation with the God- ordained weapon for this battle, the sword of the Spirit, then sin doesn’t stand a chance. Listen to the Psalmist, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I may not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11).

Fifth, run for refuge and strength to the Savior of sinners – Always, always, always remember the immeasurable grace available to you in Jesus Christ. This grace is two-pronged: grace to forgive and grace to sanctify! Go early and often to the throne of grace, meeting with the Savior who died to free you from sin, for he promises that, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

Sixth, set your hope on future glory – Take this in: Jesus has won your battle against sin. You read that right. In his death, resurrection, and ascension, the death blow to sin was levied for God’s people. It’s just a matter of time before the presence of sin is no more! When worn down with the battle of sin, pause and cast an eye to the future—when sinless you stand before the glorified Savior, “...face to face... [and you] shall know fully, even as [you] have been fully known” (1 Cor. 13:12).

Your servant,

 



Pastoral Notes for Sunday, May 16, 2021

Dear Cornerstone Family,

As more and more people receive COVID-19 vaccines and the number of active cases in our area and across the country continues to drop, Cornerstone, like many other churches, has been scaling back towards normal. Back in March, we started increasing our capacity and ceased with designated seating. Three weeks ago, we conducted our last mask-required service as registrants for that service moved to our earlier services after vaccination. And this week we ceased requiring registration for worship. Each Sunday things are looking a bit more normal.

Another area where we want to start moving back to normal is communion. For those of you who have joined Cornerstone in the last year, a little history might be in order. Pre-COVID, the bread for communion was sliced into small pieces and placed in two silver trays on the middle communion table. As you came forward, you would stop by the middle table and partake of the bread and then move toward the side tables to partake of the cup. For health concerns, we augmented that practice and went to stackable cups with bread on the bottom and wine/juice on the top.

Starting today, we are returning the bread to the center table, but not exactly in pre-COVID form. Instead of a tray of bread, an individual piece of bread will be in a cup. As you come forward today, please stop by the middle table and partake of the bread. After receiving the bread, you’ll carry your plastic cup with you and move to the outer tables where you’ll partake of the wine/juice. You will then throw both cups away. Though not all the way back to normal, this is closer to our ordinary practice and (hopefully) a move in the right direction.

Also, for those of you who are new to Cornerstone, we did not have ushers leading us row by row to communion before COVID. Over the next few weeks, our plan is to phase out the use of ushers during communion and invite the congregation to come on their own, row by row, filling the aisle on the way to the table as was our custom previous to COVID. For this morning, however, ushers will once again be present to help us, but please note they will be moving you to communion more quickly since the need for social distance during communion has passed.

In closing, I want to thank Todd Russell, David Steffens, Martha Brooks, and the whole Reopening Team for the way they’ve served so faithfully behind the scenes this last year. From registration for worship, to socially distant seating charts, to additional cleaning measures, to communion preparation and a dozen other details; the brothers and sisters on this team have served the church tirelessly and without complaint. I can’t even begin to express how thankful I am for them. We owe them a tremendous debt of gratitude for their service, and I want to encourage you to make it a point to thank them personally for their loving care of us.

Your servant,

 



Pastoral Notes for Sunday, May 9, 2021

Since the beginning of Cornerstone, we have had the wonderful opportunity to invite young people to participate in various ministries—in formal and informal ways—for the purpose of identifying gifts and encouraging the call God has placed on their lives. I asked Greg Wilbur to talk about this aspect of the ministry of Cornerstone.

In the midst of a full and busy ministry, the Apostle Paul invested time, instruction, encouragement, and himself in the discipling of Timothy. Paul understood his role of shaping and developing the gifts God had given Timothy for the good of the Church. Furthermore, in 2 Timothy 2:2, Paul exhorts Timothy to do the same: to take what Paul taught Timothy and entrust it to faithful men and women who would be able to teach others. The description we see here is four generations of discipling and equipping—Paul to Timothy, to faithful men and women, to others.

Paul also speaks of the presence of gifts within God’s people as a “manifestation of the Spirit for the common good” (1 Corinthians 12). We utilize our gifts not for ourselves but for the good of the Body— both as individuals and as a Church. As Jesus instructs us in the parable of the talents, the stewardship of what has been entrusted to us is a matter of faithfulness and joy (Matthew 25). As a church community, we have the opportunity to develop and nurture gifts for the good of the Church—not just here and now but also for later and in other parts of the Body of Christ.

Throughout the years at Cornerstone, we have intentionally identified young men and women to serve within the church for the purpose of discerning gifts under the oversight and discipling of pastors and staff. These interns have worked with women’s ministry, missions, youth, worship, and discipleship. And we have stewarded our own gifts and resources to share wisdom, ministry opportunities, and our own failures and obstacles in order to assist them in the pursuit of God’s call on their lives and to train them for a life of serving others as a successive generation.

Some of the practical ways that works out in our life as a church is encouraging younger musicians to grow in their ability to play in worship, to take extra time in helping a less experienced teacher prepare a lesson, to provide feedback and helpful critiques. You may have noticed our Psalm for May was written by our worship intern, Noah Aikens—this is another example of our commitment to give space in our Body life for the development of gifts.

As a church, this allows us all to play a discipling role by recognizing that the experience of actually doing ministry work—such as write a Psalm for worship, teach a lesson for Vespers, instruct the youth, participate in leading the liturgy—is a more effective means of instruction than just talking about it conceptually. We have a long-term, kingdom-minded approach to raise up those to follow us and prepare and outfit them for faithful service.

I am personally thankful for the patience church families had for me: when I started playing piano for worship at the age of 16 and when I took over as worship leader/choir director at my church in college at the age of 20. Their encouragement and loving exhortations helped to shape me, overcome my deficiencies, and move forward after failing.

We are thankful for the opportunity Cornerstone has with our current interns, Ethan Vroom and Noah Aikens, as well as for past interns who are completing seminary training, degrees in counseling, serving overseas and in missions, and moving into roles to serve the Church for the life and hope of the Gospel in the world. God has blessed the Cornerstone body with gifts and talents, and we prayerfully seek to steward those and train faithful men and women who can teach others for the common good.



Pastoral Notes for Sunday, May 2, 2021

Dear Cornerstone Family,

When you hear the word missions, what comes to mind? Do you think of a missionary moving to foreign country? What about a church planter establishing a new church in an underserved place? Or what about a campus minister evangelizing at a university, or a non-profit organization serving the poor or needy in a community? Those are all important mission initiatives, but did you know mission doesn’t just happen outside the church? Mission happens inside the church, too!

A few years ago, we began the church year with a brief sermon series entitled, “From Generation to Generation.” In that series, we explored the mission-critical call of the church to pass down the faith from one generation to the next, to answer King David’s call in Psalm 145:4, “One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.”

I’ve asked our Children’s Coordinator, Mrs. Meredith Suits, to share with you about an amazing opportunity we have to pass the torch of the gospel onto the next generation this summer:

Like many in our congregation, I have fond memories of Vacation Bible School. I couldn’t wait to spend a week with my friends playing games, eating fun snacks, making crafts, and listening to the adults in my church teach us about the Bible through stories, skits, and songs. For years, I’ve held on to a pillow I made at our “Good News Stampede” (a particularly entertaining wild-west-themed VBS from the mid- 90s) simply because it reminds me of the precious memories I made as a child at my church and at VBS.

Cornerstone will hold its first official VBS this summer at Jim Warren Park from 5:30-7:30 p.m. on June 2-4. After so much missed time together, the VBS team is thrilled to be preparing for a big event for the children of Cornerstone. Our theme is “Run the Race,” and we will focus all our activities around the idea that the Christian life is often like a race— a race we can prepare for through spiritual disciplines like scripture reading and prayer, a race we can run with perseverance when we learn to keep our eyes fixed on the power of Jesus Christ, and a race we won’t run alone because we have our church family to help us. Our prayer is that our children leave VBS with a stronger connection to the community of believers that will help them live as disciples of Christ and finish the race marked out for them.

We currently have over 20 volunteers signed up to help with VBS in a variety of ways, and our team is so grateful for all the interest and enthusiasm we have heard from you in the past several weeks. Please mark your calendars on June 2-4 to pray for the children of Cornerstone—that VBS would be a time to reflect on their relationship with God and others and a time when they feel so deeply loved and cared for by their church—and please let me know if there are ways you’d be willing to help as we take this exciting step forward in our children’s ministry.

Let’s throw our heart and hands behind the mission of VBS and ask the Lord to use this effort to extend the legacy of faith to the next generation!

Your servant,

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